We all know what goes on behind the scenes at our own blogs but rarely do we lift the curtain and share those experiences with others. Dear Diary: Confessions From A Blogger stems from the curiosity. This week I want to talk about Jealousy in the blogging community.
Here is my Confession:
We've all experienced jealousy at some point. Like many feelings jealousy is a part of life. However how you react to being jealousy can define you as a person. Sometimes jealousy can be a good thing, it sparks a flame inside us to do better, achieve more. On the other hand, jealousy can be all consuming making someone a bitter and resentful person. I've seen that jealousy before in the blogging community and it makes me sad.
Semi-recently I had a blogger mail me saying they were jealous how many books I'd been approved/requested to read that week. They were a bigger blog than me, had more followers even. It's like OK what do you want me to do about that?!? Say I'm sorry?? I'm not. I work hard on my blog, I dedicate hours each day on it, why should I feel bad that I'm rewarded for the effort. Clearly it all came down to the simple fact, they were jealous.
I'm not saying I'm perfect, far from it. I see the books some bloggers receive, or the designs some blogs have and that green eyed monster named jealousy purrs loudly wanting to rear its ugly head. I learned a long time ago though that it's not worth worrying about what everyone else is doing,instead I try to just focus on making my slice of the internet pie satisfying to me. I hope my followers like it, but ultimately my satisfaction and happiness is what matters. I couldn't keep doing this if I kept comparing myself to other blogs. I'm not like them, I'm my own person. Only I can make myself successful or not. I sometimes worry about new bloggers starting up. I've seen many try and take shortcuts such as: Asking bigger blogs for publishing/Author contacts they worked hard to establish, plagiarizing reviews just so they don't have to do the work themselves, to an extent I'll even include denying Indie Authors review requests just because they only want pretty covered well known Arcs/Authors on their shelf.
In the end I hope this type of instant gratification amongst the fresh crop of blogs popping up is only temporary but I suppose as long as jealousy exists it is bound to continue.
So here are my questions for this week:
How do you tackle jealous bloggers? Do you ignore them or try to offer words of encouragement? Name a time in recent memory where you've been jealous yourself. Leave your responses in the comments below, I love reading them. Have a question? Leave that as well and I'll try and answer it.
That about wraps up this weeks confessions from a blogger. Thanks for stopping by and reading,sharing, or commenting on this post. As always, it is appreciated.